Do you ever get so used to something that you don’t see it anymore? That’s the way it is for me right now with my dining room. I have wallpaper half on and half off. It looks absolutely terrible and yet as I pass through the room every day I barely notice it. I started this project months ago never expecting it to be such a big deal. The last time I removed wallpaper from the dining room it came off in almost perfect strips with a few tugs at the baseboard. Not this time!
It’s been a fight with every two inch square so now I dread pulling out the remover solution and the scraping tools. It’s easier to walk by and close my mind to it. I know I’ve got to bite the bullet and get back to it sooner or later. My goodness, it’s getting embarrassing when people come in and just stare at the walls and then look away. Gosh, are they starting to not see it too?
When relationships are sticky, it’s easy to do the same thing I’m doing with my dining room. Things aren’t running smoothly; there has been an offense; there hasn’t been a conversation for quite some time. So you don’t deal with it and pretty soon you don’t even see it anymore. You realize it is going to be real work when you finally decide to get back to it.
God knows about our tendency to avoid unpleasantness and look away. That’s why he gave us a rule to prevent things from getting out of hand. He says in Ephesians 4:26; “In your anger do not sin. Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry.” Deal with arguments and offenses as you go along, never letting them build into the next day because that day often leads to the next day and on and on it goes.
Later in the Ephesians passage it says; “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” (Verse 32) If you are reminded right now of a situation you just aren’t seeing anymore, do something about it today. Don’t let the sun go down again until you have made things right.
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