Here’s one I sure wish I could get a grip on: “Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned, as it were, with salt, so that you may know how you should respond to each person.” (Colossians 4:6)
One person needs a comforting empathetic word and another needs a word of correction. The question is: which is which? Being a very direct person who likes to go to the heart of the matter my speech is unfortunately often “over salted.” That’s another way of saying that my frankness can sometimes bite.
On the other hand, those who are the opposite and are heavy on the grace side may miss the opportunity to challenge someone to face reality or grow in maturity. Ah, to know that perfect balance — how to respond to each person.
The truth is, without carefully listening to the Holy Spirit at all times we will all miss it pretty badly sometimes in our speech. It is that word in season, whether sharp or blunt, that hits the mark and provides a blessing.
Maybe the best course of action is to take a good long pause before speaking at all. Take a minute and get some advice. Seek the Divine Helper who reads hearts. We may be lacking in acceptable wisdom for each person but HE has the perfect recipe for grace and salt.